"Boy Dumb" - Do you know what it is? Do you do it?

There are lots of different kinds of "closets" that we hide in.

Okay, I'd never heard this expression before:

Boy Dumb

Turns out it means "When a girl who had high grades in junior high dumbs herself down so boys will like her more in high school."

WOW.

Have YOU ever gone "Boy Dumb?"

I think this really plays into the whole fear of being honest about who you are - that worry about how can you be loved if you are... too tall, too smart, too feminine, too masculine, too thin, too fat, too plain, too pretty, too quiet, too loud, too not-what-the-object-of-your-affection-might-want-you-to-be.

Here's a secret: The person you're going to be happiest with, is the one you can be absolutely YOURSELF around. No lies. No facades. No trying-to-be-what-they-want.

Just YOU. Flaws and all.

Because THAT'S love.

First, you gotta love yourself, for being you. Because THAT'S EVERYTHING.

The rest will flow from that.

Cause think about it. If you're smart*, you wanna be with someone who LOVES you for that!

Namaste,
Lee

*or Gay, or Tall, or any and everything you are...

ps- I found out about this "boy dumb" phenomenon from Angela Leo, a musician with a fantastic goal: She wants to get a girl/girl love song on the radio! Go Angela!

pps- I made the cool "boy dumb" word art at this website here! You can customize your own!