Showing posts with label On Success. Show all posts
Showing posts with label On Success. Show all posts

Thursday, March 8, 2012

"The Queer Art Of Failure" - How do you measure success? And can the Queer Community help us see Success in different terms?




The Queer Art of Failure by Judith (Jack) Halberstam


...at this moment, intense capitalist accumulation, we’re living with one model of success and failure and one model alone. And that model is, that to make money and to advance professionally is what it means to be successful, and everything else is failure. That’s given us a zero-sum model against which we can judge our achievements in life, and that’s very unfortunate, because it squashes out all kinds of people doing alternative things for alternative reasons that may be much more valuable to their communities and to the world. So if you’re absolutely dedicated to organic farming, recycling, playing in a punk band on the weekend, and blogging, and you do some temp work in your spare time, you’re making a big contribution to the world we live in but you are not able to feed into the model of success that we’ve set out. So the book suggests that in such a moment, the moment of Occupy Wall Street and the one percent and the 99%, we need better models of success and failure. We need to measure ourselves against different standards. And the book proposes that queer people have actually been doing this for a long time precisely because we quickly fall out of the prevailing model of success and failure by not managing to meet the standards of gender and sexuality set for us by our usually straight families. Therefore there might be insights into failure that come out of queer art and queer culture.

Jack Halberstam, speaking about the premise of their new book, "The Queer Art of Failure" in an interview with Sinclair Sexsmith at Lambda Literary.


Add your review of "The Queer Art of Failure" in comments!

Monday, January 3, 2011

It's 2011! My New Year's Resolution About Success

Happy New Year, Everyone! I'm excited to be back, and can't wait to share with you my New Year's Resolution - it's one I hope you join me on:




We get snookered in our culture into believing that "success" looks like one thing: money, fame, grand achievement that lands you in

a) Time
b) Newsweek
c) People Magazine
d) your own reality TV show.

I think that in our focus on achieving our long-term "dreams" - be it selling our first book, or graduating high school, or finding true love, or circumnavigating the globe - we forget about the success we already own, that we've already created for ourselves, each day of our journey.

SUCCESS IS:
Sitting down to creatively express yourself in words makes you a success as a writer.


SUCCESS IS:
Posting a blog entry that communicates what you need to share makes you a success as a blogger.


SUCCESS IS:
Loving someone and being loved as well makes that relationship a success.


SUCCESS IS:
Working out and feeling good is a success in enjoying and taking care of your body.


SUCCESS IS:
Setting boundaries with difficult people in your life and honoring yourself by sticking to those boundaries.


SUCCESS IS:
Each step you take towards achieving your long-term goal. Going to a writer's conference (like the upcoming 2011 SCBWI Winter Conference in New York City!) Or, if you're in school, learning something cool (like that Shakespeare was bisexual!)



SUCCESS IS:
Participating and being part of a community - like commenting on blogs in the kidlitosphere. In fact, get ready because The 2011 Comment Challenge will be starting this Thursday, January 6, 2011, and for 21 days MotherReader and I will be challenging people who read children's literature blogs to leave 5 comments a day and create a new habit of engagement and community!


SUCCESS IS:
Loving and accepting yourself for all of who you are - quirky, unique, wonderful YOU - makes you a success. Right now.


SUCCESS IS every day, being YOU. (And for me, being ME.)


So as we go forward into this New Year of 2011, and we have our sights set and our plans in place for achieving our long term goals, let's resolve to remember and appreciate, every day, how much success we have already achieved!

Our year ahead, all 365 glorious days, can be filled with this real, daily success.

Please share one of your daily successes!



My thanks to Frank for reminding me just how much each day is filled with success, if we just remember to acknowledge it.